Be a SJ Ally, not a SJ Sally
Years ago I went on a medication which can cause permanent sexual dysfunction, and, even though I only took it for about a year, I still don’t get turned on to this day.  I’ve always been really ashamed about this – it’s been a big cause of friction in relationships, and I feel like I should be able to “fix” it, even though I’ve tried everything I can.  Anyway, I mentioned it on Tumblr a few weeks ago…  and since then, have been besieged by an unknown but persistent number of anons telling me I am sekritly asexua.  And when I explain why I’m not, crying ace shaming and internalized acephobia at me.  It’s ironic, because I have long considered myself an ace ally – and still do – and one of the reasons I never thought asexuality was a form of sexual dysfunction was that asexuals’ descriptions of their experiences sounded totally different from mine – you know, someone who is actually dysfunctional.

Years ago I went on a medication which can cause permanent sexual dysfunction, and, even though I only took it for about a year, I still don’t get turned on to this day.  I’ve always been really ashamed about this – it’s been a big cause of friction in relationships, and I feel like I should be able to “fix” it, even though I’ve tried everything I can.  Anyway, I mentioned it on Tumblr a few weeks ago…  and since then, have been besieged by an unknown but persistent number of anons telling me I am sekritly asexua.  And when I explain why I’m not, crying ace shaming and internalized acephobia at me.  It’s ironic, because I have long considered myself an ace ally – and still do – and one of the reasons I never thought asexuality was a form of sexual dysfunction was that asexuals’ descriptions of their experiences sounded totally different from mine – you know, someone who is actually dysfunctional.

Calling out writers like that is a pretty silly move to make when you do it on a website for writers.  If it’s really something you hate so much, aren’t you in a wonderful position to actually do something about it?

Calling out writers like that is a pretty silly move to make when you do it on a website for writers.  If it’s really something you hate so much, aren’t you in a wonderful position to actually do something about it?

Okay, I can tell the OP who posted the rant at Cover Girl was at the soul of it trying to be a good person. But I cant help being a really pale Latino that they were also hating at me for not being ‘tan’.
It kind of was “Hating on racialism with a dash of racialism”

Okay, I can tell the OP who posted the rant at Cover Girl was at the soul of it trying to be a good person. But I cant help being a really pale Latino that they were also hating at me for not being ‘tan’.

It kind of was “Hating on racialism with a dash of racialism”

Because it’s not like there’s a long history of accusing Jews of being evil and behind everything that someone dislikes. It’s not like there was a massively distributed, half-plagiarized anti-Semitic text promoting just that. Oh wait.

Because it’s not like there’s a long history of accusing Jews of being evil and behind everything that someone dislikes. It’s not like there was a massively distributed, half-plagiarized anti-Semitic text promoting just that. Oh wait.

This happened recently on a social justice blog I used to follow (unfollowed because of the rude attitude of some of the moderators).
Somebody asked a serious question about cultural appropriation in hopes of understanding it better and a few of the moderators started cursing them out and yelling at them for being uniformed on the subject. I’m sorry, but I was of the belief that the point of social justice blogs were to educate people, not yell at them. I understand it’s sometimes hard to not to get angry with someone who is ignorant to a subject that you’re particularly sensitive to, but by being rude to people who are genuinely trying to better themselves is not the way to go.

This happened recently on a social justice blog I used to follow (unfollowed because of the rude attitude of some of the moderators).

Somebody asked a serious question about cultural appropriation in hopes of understanding it better and a few of the moderators started cursing them out and yelling at them for being uniformed on the subject. I’m sorry, but I was of the belief that the point of social justice blogs were to educate people, not yell at them. I understand it’s sometimes hard to not to get angry with someone who is ignorant to a subject that you’re particularly sensitive to, but by being rude to people who are genuinely trying to better themselves is not the way to go.