

She went on to say that “Men usually have a physical advantage over women, so it’s not that big of a deal.”

If you refuse to call a creationist an idiot because ZOMG ABLEIST! but don’t even hesitate to tell a teenager to kill themselves because they wanted to have a calm discusion about appropriation or whatever with you, your prioritites are seriously fucked up.

Years ago I went on a medication which can cause permanent sexual dysfunction, and, even though I only took it for about a year, I still don’t get turned on to this day. I’ve always been really ashamed about this – it’s been a big cause of friction in relationships, and I feel like I should be able to “fix” it, even though I’ve tried everything I can. Anyway, I mentioned it on Tumblr a few weeks ago… and since then, have been besieged by an unknown but persistent number of anons telling me I am sekritly asexua. And when I explain why I’m not, crying ace shaming and internalized acephobia at me. It’s ironic, because I have long considered myself an ace ally – and still do – and one of the reasons I never thought asexuality was a form of sexual dysfunction was that asexuals’ descriptions of their experiences sounded totally different from mine – you know, someone who is actually dysfunctional.
Calling out writers like that is a pretty silly move to make when you do it on a website for writers. If it’s really something you hate so much, aren’t you in a wonderful position to actually do something about it?





